We humans favor the familiar. We gravitate to what we know. Familiarity is the nostalgic tale on intimacy’s lips, and we love it, never tiring of the story. Intimacy whispers to our lost sense of connection, telling us the most important thing we need to know – that everything is going to be all right. It is the feeling we get when someone or something “hits home” – when all the atoms and molecules line up… just right.
A good writer can convey this feeling, as can a great actor. One of the most intense experiences intimacy can provide is that of love-at-first-sight. Fact is, any charismatic man or woman can deliver on intimacy’s promise – the feeling of union that it offers. Those who are able to engender this powerful, nostalgic sensation have a tremendous advantage over those who cannot, because, for better or worse, life is a popularity contest.
Lovers are won over; business deals are sealed; best sellers are created; box office records are smashed; elections are clinched; and history is made – the world’s fate turns on this elusive, most intangible thing called intimacy, and it belongs to those who can create it.
Why? Because we live in a world of “others,” and our energies are constantly mingling. The quality of our interaction plays a vital role in determining the quality of our lives. The moments we share, both personally and professionally, deeply alter the nature of our reality – heaven or hell, literally determined by the character of our connections. If this is true, what experience should we aim for to get the most out of life?
To put it in visual terms, if interaction had a target, intimacy would be the bull’s eye.
The secret to creating intimacy lies in what might best be called our common invisible “fabric,” our mutual Source. Intimacy is the fleeting experience of connection created by a momentary recollection, acceptance, and communication of who and what we essentially are – deeply and universally. Intimacy is an energetic language based in what is most absolutely and mutually true. It cannot be learned, only remembered.
Meditation can be a direct link to creating intimacy. When we meditate we fix our attention on our breath or mantra. Forsaking our thoughts and feelings, we immerse ourselves in the experience thus created – union with Self. By taking this skill out of the meditation setting and into the world we may create union with an “other.” This person becomes the mantra, the point on which we focus all of our attention. All thought and feeling fades into the background. The world, with the exception of this one entity melts away. We are left with an unadulterated connection – intimacy
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